Working With My Mom

Mothers and daughters say that owning a business together is rewarding--and fun.


Total honesty and perfect trust. That's what mothers and daughters who own businesses together say their partnership allows them. "I couldn't imagine being in business with anyone but my mother," Brita DeBrest says. "No one knows you like your mother."

"I think it goes to a trend of women really enjoying starting businesses in partnerships in general. It seems more doable that way; it's fun," says Beth Schoenfelt, who co-founded Ladies Who Launch along with Victoria Colligan.

Ladies Who Launch conducted a recent member survey. Of the nearly 300 who responded, approximately 34 percent of women-owned businesses are partnerships, with 15 percent of those partnerships comprising mothers and daughters.

Look to the entrepreneurial stories that follow to find heartwarming examples of mothers and daughters who share their workaday worlds--and wouldn't have it any other way.



Gwen DeBrest, 67, and Brita DeBrest, 43
Venture: Veggielicious Cookies and Cakes Inc.
Location: Reston, Virginia

Veggielicious Cookies and Cakes Inc. was born in 2005 when Brita DeBrest's mom, Gwen, challenged her to make a cookie out of vegetables. Brita went home that night and made sweet potato cookies, which she brought to work the following day. The response was gratifying, and a new business was born.

Over the next three months, the pair developed six cookie flavors and launched the Veggielicious brand in Reston, Virgnia. "I couldn't imagine being in business with anyone but my mother," Brita says.

The business encompasses a 2,200-square-foot warehouse and three employees, in addition to Brita and Gwen. Sales in 2007 totaled $80,000, and with an influx of funds from a recent investor, Brita hopes to increase that to $250,000 in 2008. "What makes us work," Brita says, "is that [Gwen] has trained her children properly, and she's smart enough to stand back and let her teachings take place."

Gwen has four children. "Their father died when they were very young. We all struggled, and I'm thankful they've seen the sacrifices I've made, Gwen says. "They all are hard workers. They do appreciate my sacrifices, and they don't let me want for anything."



Isabelle Villasenor, 62; Lisa De Bono, 39; and Jenny Briones, 36
Venture: 7 McDonald's Franchises
Location: Southern California (Artesia, Cypress, Newport Beach, Norwalk and Cerritos)

Isabelle Villasenor purchased the first of seven McDonald's franchises after her divorce in 1981. Her daughters, Lisa De Bono and Jenny Briones, were 7 and 10 years old, respectively. It was a logical choice for Villasenor, whose in-laws had been franchisees since 1968.

The girls literally grew up in the business. "We say we were born with ketchup in our bangs," Briones says. "When Ronald McDonald came to visit, we wore tiny management uniforms and handed out balloons and tray liners." Today, the trio oversees 300 employees.

Briones always knew she wanted to be an owner/operator. DeBono, who went to UCLA, worked for a literary agency for several years. "Every time I'd come back to visit my family, we'd start talking about McDonald's. As time passed, I realized I was more stimulated by what was happening at McDonald's than by what I was doing for a living."

"We all work as a team," Briones says. "There's so much respect and trust," De Bono says of working with family members, including Briones' husband. "We can vent to one another. We finish each other's sentences. We know exactly what the other person is thinking."

"We're each others' best friends," De Bono says. "We've grown up that way because [Villasenor] was a single mom."

Briones and De Bono have five kids between them. "If they do come into the business, they would be fourth generation," Villasenor says proudly.


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The trio's advice for others: Villasenor: "Be honest and maintain your integrity." De Bono: "Set very clear parameters and priorities. There should be no guesswork on the direction we're headed as a family." Briones: "Never let anything get in the way of family."

What do the daughters' kids think about McDonald's? "That's the first place they want to go, and we're happy to take them," Briones says.



Kim Madden, 39, and Heather Madden, 10
Venture: Sassy Tails
Location: Greenville, South Carolina

Six-year-old Heather Madden hated hair bows. So Kim Madden started making fancy ponytail ornaments for her. When Heather's classmates began clamoring for hair accessories of their own, Madden realized she had a product that girls around the country would want.

So in 2004, the mother-daughter team created Sassy Tails together, with Heather taking on the role of vice president. It's not just a title. New styles and designs are inspired by suggestions from Heather and the company’s informal Junior Advisory Board. In addition, Heather travels to trade shows with her mom and gives speeches about the company and its products. Recently, she helped write the script for a video e-mercial. "The morning of the filming, she sent me away," Kim says proudly.

Having Heather involved in the business gives Kim and her daughter time together. "We automatically have something in common to talk about," Kim says. What's more, Kim has a platform and a venue to teach Heather some life lessons. Kim finds it natural to explain everything about the business world to Heather. "At this age, their brains are so open and they have so many ideas. When we hit age 13 and up, we get that spirit crushed."

Heather spends as little or as much time on the business as she likes, Kim says. But if she makes a commitment, she has to keep it. "If she says she's going to work a holiday fair with me, she has to do it, even if she changes her mind," Kim says.

Sales last year totaled $250,000. Sassy Tails now has Disney licensing and licensing from Warner Bros. to sell Harry Potter-inspired hair accessories. Kim is also seeking $5 million in funding to ramp up production. With the funding and commercial tie-ins, Madden says she's on target to reach $1 million in sales this year.

Kim says she managed to secure the licensing because she didn't know she couldn't. Her advice to other entrepreneurs is: "Believe that anything is possible. Expect a lot of resistance, whether it's from the market, your family or naysayers out there. Stay focused on what you're trying to achieve and move on in spite of them."



Leslie Haas Clanton, 46; Emily Clanton, 16; and Mary Clanton, 13
Venture: Boberry Designs
Location: Glen Allen, Virginia

When Leslie Hass Clanton started Boberry Designs, it was natural to pay her girls to work with her in the venture. "I used to work for my dad, and I loved getting paid for doing work that I thought was kind of easy," she recalls. The company, originally named It's In the Bag, was renamed Boberry Designs after younger daughter Mary (as in the children's rhyming game, "Mary Mary bo-berry bana-fana fo-ferry," also known as "The Name Game"). Boberry Designs produces and sells gift bags, towel bags, and a wearable beverage holder.

Boberry, established in 1997, is presently a side business for Leslie, who co-owns Plastic Lumber Inc., which sells maintenance-free building materials. Even as a hobby business, Boberry made $270,000 in sales last year. With plans to focus on Boberry Designs full time this year, Leslie hopes to increase sales significantly.

The work isn't always easy, especially when it comes to setting up or breaking down a booth. "Sometimes it can get really, really stressful, and we'll get on each others' nerves," Leslie says. "But at the end of the day, we appreciate each other and the job that we're doing."

Emily adds, "It definitely feels good at the end of a weekend when you see how many sales you made."

Leslie admits that being in business with your daughters can make it difficult to navigate between the roles of mother and business partner. "I'm constantly having to negotiate. We do make lots of compromises . . . because we're close and we work as a team. But I do put my foot down on certain things."

Nevertheless, when it comes to business, Emily sometimes finds herself advising her mother. Says Leslie, "Sometimes I'll have what I think is a really good idea, and she'll knock it down and tell me why it's stupid. She keeps me balanced." Mary has a special role to play, as well: "I tend to get messy with the store or the booth," Leslie says. "Mary keeps it neat and tidy." Mary has just started doing shows, and she runs the cash registers. "I can't hire anybody as good as Em and Mary are," Leslie says.

Emily warns mothers who have businesses not to push daughters into working with them. "They have to want to do it," she says.



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